Hey
I haven’t blogged since the weekend because my head has been so crazy full and I thought that I’ve done enough ranting posts, full of typos (sorry) and I was getting tired of hearing myself go on about it. But a lot has happened since and I’ve had a ridiculous amount of work to do (downing coffee -which I don’t even like- at this very moment just to stay awake).
Anyway, I went to bed Saturday night still hurting from what Mr X had told me about seeing other people. Sunday morning my alarm on my phone shouted at me to get up. I was planning on leaving London early to head back home and get on with my work. As usual I grabbed it and hit the dismiss button in the name of leave me alone for just five more minutes. At that moment the thought ‘I wonder if he’s text me ran through my head’ but then I was like don’t be stupid he’s moved on you won’t hear from him again. 5mins later my phone was screaming again, as I had in fact pressed snooze instead of dismiss (my subconscious is sensible) on turning off my alarm and resigning to the fact I have to get out of bed I got a text from him saying that karma is quick for what he has done to me and that he’s been hurt and hospitalised.
I was in a state of shock; so many thoughts went through my head at once; is he ok? Why is he telling me? Where is he? Why didn’t text one of his interest? I need to see him…
I spoke to my mum and aunty; my aunty wasn’t quite so sympathetic but my mum said you need to find out what’s happened. So I phoned one of his family members, they told me what they knew and what hospital he was in. I said I would go on my way to the train station.
I then got a text from him to say thanks for being willing to come given everything but he didn’t want me to come. That hurt, I wasn’t going there to profess my love for him. I could have easily turned round and said good he deserved it (and there were a few on my side who felt that way) or just ignored his initial text. But I was genuinely concerned about his well being. I simply told him not to confuse my concern for anything else and that I would respect his wishes and would not be visiting I figured he had someone new there to support him anyway.
A couple of hours later as I was getting off the train he text me;
I just thought u should know that i didn’t ask u not to come because i have someone here to replace u. I don’t. It’s because i don’t deserve your care and attentiveness. You are such a kind and loving person and i am so thankful that you are willing. I’ll be going into surgery today and i will keep u informed if u like. I won’t stop u from coming here but i really don’t think it will benefit you. He followed with a text saying where the hospital was.
I replied: I’m sorry but I’ve already left London, getting on with my work. You don’t have to explain anything else to me that’s between you and ur conscience. I wasn’t going to come and see you to gain anything but I was just concerned about your well being despite everything. I hope your surgery goes well you can text me updates.
I was just a bit overwhelmed that day not to mention I hadn’t done much on an assignment that was due in the next day! I was up till 6 the next morning doing it so it kept my mind busy to say the least.
Right now I’m really confused. I’m obviously really worried about him physically and I’ve been getting updates from his sister. I’m still very much aware this hasn’t changed anything between me and him, he made it clear that he didn’t love me a just a few hours before the incident, and if it never happened we wouldn’t even be speaking he’d be doing his own thing with whomever and I’d be trying like hell to forget him and to move on. He was out having fun that night whilst I was in bed upset.
My friends are asking me why do I care, it’s not my concern anymore? Ignore him they say. Part of me is still very angry with him and doesn’t care. To be honest on Sunday I wasn’t that emotionally connected, I just wanted to make sure he was physically ok and safe. But it’s been harder everyday that goes by because I do still love him and I’d like to think that I’m not a complete heartless bitch.
My mum has been the only one who has his back lol. She wants to visit him, she says he’s still human and despite what’s happened I should still support him as a friend.
The thing is I’m not sure he wants me too. I’m not sure about anything. I am still trying to move on because he textes me updates now, but once he recovers he may well remember I’m not I’m not important and go ahead with his life.
We did speak this morning though, he seems ok in himself but its complex and quite bad so will be recovering for quite some time. Felt pretty sucky after speaking with him. I probably shouldn’t contact him again as I don’t know if he wants me too -he sounded happy enough, even had energy to crack jokes and tell me to get on with my work- but whether it is a good idea for me, I don’t know. Part of me feels guilty for being here and not there.
But my friend said, he’s injured but he’s not in a life threatening position. So don’t contact him anymore. You know he’s ok so there’s nothing else for you to find out let him be the one to contact you. I’m in touch with his family either way and I do wish him well.
It’s all a mess really… This was not supposed to be a vent post or an essay, but oh well. I have a few drafts I’ve been meaning to post but I’m going to do some Uni work 1st. Coffee is finished now so back to the library :-(.
Kisses
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